I hate you - don't leave me. 
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Ending relationships – Is it BPD?


I hate you - don't leave me.  Image by Kaoxita - Deviant Art.com  (http://www.deviantart.com/art/I-hate-you-don-t-leave-me-102465289)

I hate you – don’t leave me.
Image by Kaoxita – Deviant Art.com
(http://www.deviantart.com/art/I-hate-you-don-t-leave-me-102465289)

A diagnosis of BPD is not something to be taken lightly, it is life altering, in many ways.

Increasingly I am finding that people are contacting me through my blog regarding their relationship difficulties. Mainly the end of a relationship that has been quite turbulent or toxic, most often the person breaking off the relationship in these scenarios is a woman, and nearly every message includes reference to a concern that the ‘ex’ in question had/has BPD. I apologise if you have recently written to me about something like this, you may not like what you are about to read, but it’s nothing personal about anyone who has contacted me, just a general observation and attempt to clarify things a little…

I recognise that writing this post is likely to bring a few attacks and trolls around, but I need to share it anyway, I’m ready for the hate mail!

I think it is time to address a few key points about BPD and relationships…

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2013 My Year in Review


IMG_0595Following on from my update on my recovery from BPD; where I mentioned the how the difficulties achieving and maintaining recovery are compounded by unrelenting crisis, I will now share an insight into some of the challenges/crises I have faced in the past year that make my achievement all the more remarkable… Continue reading

Road to Recovery

Borderline Personality Disorder, Recovery and Me in 2013


Road to Recovery

Road to Recovery

October was the last time I posted here, and my stats sure show an understandably huge decline in readership – why come here if there is nothing new to read after all. A double-edged sword…

I miss the camaraderie of conversing with my fellow bloggers and keeping up with how everyone is getting on but at the same time that I do not ‘need’ my blog and reading others as a crutch to help me cope with what is still a very busy, emotional and challenging life is a clear indication of how much better I am now than I was.

That said, this may end up being a post of more than one part, as I don’t want to bore you senseless droning on for hours, but I do have a lot to cover in this long overdue update. I’m going to start with the most important topic (blog wise) BPD after all it was writing about living with Borderline Personality Disorder that really caused my blog to take off and draw people in so for my readers knowing how much this effects me now is certainly the most important thing they are interested in – for hope, inspiration and encouragement that they too can recover, so here goes… Continue reading

If you keep doing what you’ve always done, You’ll keep getting what you’ve always got…


English: This is a graphic representation of t...

English: This is a graphic representation of the “Stages of Change” in the Transtheoretical Model of Behavior Change. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Never a truer word spoken…

Hi, readers how’s it going?

I’ve not been writing for some time now. It’s odd how despite writing being one of the biggest loves in my life I go through periods where I have nothing to say, no words to type and can go ‘silent’ for months on end. I’m not saying I’m back now, cause this may just be a one-off update post, even I don’t know at the moment.

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Random Conversations – The Perfect Proposal


English: An engagement ring.

English: An engagement ring. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Don’t you just love meeting new people and making new friends?

Even better, the random conversations that you can end up having as you get to know each other?

Such fun, and you learn things that inspire, amaze and even shock you.

I made a new friend recently and she told me the most beautiful story of her engagement, I asked her if it would be okay to share it as I thought my readers would find it very moving and she agreed I could so here, for you, is a love story better than anything you see in the movies (especially those silly chick-flicks! lol) because it’s TRUE!

*Disclaimer – names and certain details have been altered to protect identities but the story is still true*

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