Random Conversations – The Perfect Proposal

English: An engagement ring. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Don’t you just love meeting new people and making new friends?

Even better, the random conversations that you can end up having as you get to know each other?

Such fun, and you learn things that inspire, amaze and even shock you.

I made a new friend recently and she told me the most beautiful story of her engagement, I asked her if it would be okay to share it as I thought my readers would find it very moving and she agreed I could so here, for you, is a love story better than anything you see in the movies (especially those silly chick-flicks! lol) because it’s TRUE!

*Disclaimer – names and certain details have been altered to protect identities but the story is still true*

The Angel and Devil on my shoulder – A BPD defence mechanism for relationships – Part 1

Combining the Angel and Devil to become a whole person

When you live with BPD everything is black and white, there are no shades of grey.

Good or evil, nothing in between.

Everyone jokes about having an angel on one shoulder and a devil on the other and them being stuck in the middle, with BPD the difference is there is no you in the middle, you are the angel and the devil at constant war with yourself to control you thoughts, feelings and emotions… it is a defence mechanism doomed to failure…

How does this impact on forming romantic relationships?

Let me take you on a journey through my world…

Today we’ll examine the Devil’s perspective, I’ll reveal the angel in another post…

Regrets? I have only one…

regret. nothing. (Photo credit: Ed Yourdon)

Regrets, nearly everyone has them, lots of them. People spend so much time dwelling on what if’s and what could have been, if only they had made a different choice. Regretting choices, mistakes and even things that happen that were outside of your control.

I’ve never really understood this, as the title to this post states, regrets I only have one and that one regret is something that realistically I shouldn’t regret either, because I was too young to understand the consequences of the decision I made at that time…

Recovery from BPD is an ongoing battle…

English: Emotions Q-sort (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The last couple of weeks have been hard work, it has made me question again my ‘recovery’ status as I have not been doing well and have discovered that I don’t have the emotional stability I thought I had.

Don’t get me wrong I have handled it much better than I would have a few months ago, so the progress made is not lost, but there is still a way to go and a daily battle of wills with myself to keep on top of it all. I have had strong urges to self-harm but not given in to them, I have had some intense emotions but have overcome them with out overreacting, so I guess that’s good work, but the battle is really hard again at the moment due to the things that have brought my mood down.

There have been a few things that have triggered these difficulties coping…

How to end a friendship/relationship with someone with BPD

English: friendship (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Well first of all I will admit this is a difficult subject to tackle, but I was asked by a non-BP if I could advise them how to do this (being a BP myself). This person needs to terminate a toxic friendship to protect themselves; but while they cannot be friends with the BP any longer they still care about the BP and recognise the potential for triggering a crisis that ending the friendship could cause.

So, I said I would try to provide some suggestions that may help minimise the possible damage to both parties that still allow the non-BP to break away safe in the knowledge they did what they could not to harm the BP whilst ensuring they did what was best for themselves, this post is the result of my work trying to answer this question…