We all do it, whether it's twitter, facebook or blogging we all share so much of our lives online now, but at what point does sharing your life online become oversharing?
For some people this one is easy, if it's 'personal' it's personal, you shouldn't (they wouldn't) share it online. But, each of us has our own limits and expectations on what we would consider oversharing.
For some the sharing of banal daily activities such as what you are eating for lunch is oversharing, while to others this is just an interesting tidbit that could spark a conversation.
For others it's those attention seeking 'look how sad I am' or 'someone has upset me' posts that go to far, or similarly ranting about other people's behaviour 'so-so and is a plonker' just push peoples buttons and make them long for 'dislike' and 'shut- the-fuck-up' buttons on Facebook (actually tbh twitter should give the option of liking/disliking too I reckon – what do you think?)
Personally the posts that get my goat aren't oversharing in one sense, (although the do tend to suggest a person has far too much time to waste and maybe they should be doing something more productive with their time!?) they are those game playing updates on facebook 'X got 500 poker chips' 'Y has a new animal in their z' blah, blah, blah don't wanna know, don't care – read a book ffs!!?
Of course oversharing really is more about being OTT with the TMI, I recently saw someone I know share a video on facebook of their bowel movements, yep thats right the videoed themselves taking a dump!! I'm pretty sure only the sick and twisted amongst society would NOT consider that as oversharing right?
Some oversharing is done for the greater good, mainly through blogging, as tweets or facebook statuses I think there are things that are saying too much, but sometimes putting these things in a blog post can be helpful, informative and theraputic, such as has been the case for me.
Due to having BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and writing about living with this difficult mental health condition on my blog (https://showard76.wordpress.com) I often share far more than the average person about personal things in my life, from relationship issues, to self-harm, abuse and sexual behaviour. In other contexts the things I write on my blog would be considered oversharing but because of the platform and context in which they are shared they are not considered oversharing, instead being more of an outlet for me and a source of support and understanding for others with BPD.
In the end it all comes down to personal preferences and the choice of platform you are sharing on, what is too much in one forum may not be in another and vice versa. You just have t get the balance right, of course it also helps to think before you post, and maybe posting when drunk, angry or upset is not a good idea as these posts are likely to be oversharing in some respect! 😉
What do you think?
At what point does sharing your life online become oversharing in your opinion?