Ending relationships – Is it BPD?

I hate you - don't leave me.  Image by Kaoxita - Deviant Art.com  (http://www.deviantart.com/art/I-hate-you-don-t-leave-me-102465289)

I hate you – don’t leave me.
Image by Kaoxita – Deviant Art.com

A diagnosis of BPD is not something to be taken lightly, it is life altering, in many ways.

Increasingly I am finding that people are contacting me through my blog regarding their relationship difficulties. Mainly the end of a relationship that has been quite turbulent or toxic, most often the person breaking off the relationship in these scenarios is a woman, and nearly every message includes reference to a concern that the ‘ex’ in question had/has BPD. I apologise if you have recently written to me about something like this, you may not like what you are about to read, but it’s nothing personal about anyone who has contacted me, just a general observation and attempt to clarify things a little…

I recognise that writing this post is likely to bring a few attacks and trolls around, but I need to share it anyway, I’m ready for the hate mail!

I think it is time to address a few key points about BPD and relationships…

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Strong Person Award

Image credit – The Quiet Borderline

The Quiet Borderline has most generously created a new award for all the blogging mentalists out there and I was honoured to have this award bestowed upon me. Thank you so much Quiet, you are an inspiration and much loved in the blogosphere!

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Changing Self Image – Hair, Fashion,Tattoo’s and piercings – A BPD perspective.

Changing your image is not something that is isolated to people who have BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder).

People do it all the time, I’m sure you have fancied a change from your ‘usual’ look and may even have braved a new hairstyle once or twice?

Lot’s of people enjoy getting tattoo’s and piercings, it doesn’t mean they have BPD.

So, what is the difference between these people and those who have BPD doing the same things many others do?

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Impulsivity and Borderline Personality Disorder

Continuing my series of Mental Health Monday and BPD DSM IV diagnostic criteria posts today we look at Criteria 4

4. impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating). Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5.

source: BPD Today

*Warning* Do not read this post if you are disturbed by discussions of sexual promiscuity!

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Boredom and Borderline Personality Disorder


Not what you would typically associate with Borderline Personality Disorder right?

Not one of the diagnostic criteria in the DSM IV that’s for sure…

So how come I think boredom is such a key element to BPD myself?

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