If you keep doing what you’ve always done, You’ll keep getting what you’ve always got…

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English: This is a graphic representation of the “Stages of Change” in the Transtheoretical Model of Behavior Change. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Never a truer word spoken…

Hi, readers how’s it going?

I’ve not been writing for some time now. It’s odd how despite writing being one of the biggest loves in my life I go through periods where I have nothing to say, no words to type and can go ‘silent’ for months on end. I’m not saying I’m back now, cause this may just be a one-off update post, even I don’t know at the moment.

So, why the title? Well it’s like this…. Continue reading


Medical Wisdom: How to Naturally Boost Your Mood – Guest Post by Amelia



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We could all use a serotonin boost every once in awhile  Some days things just aren’t going our way, and some days – no matter how good the day is going – we just can’t seem to find any happiness. People living with Borderline Personality Disorder especially have trouble when it comes to navigating their way out of challenging mood swings. Whenever the going gets tough, however, it’s nice to turn to a host of holistic remedies to get through crappy moods. If you’re looking for a few natural medicines to get you through your down days, here are three reliable ones to turn to. Continue reading

Mental Health Mondays – Spring is in the air

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Spring is coming, the day’s are getting lighter, brighter and warmer. The breeze is fresh and gentle. And life is returning to the world, colour in flowers, leaves on trees.

Will the change of season bring some solace and freshness to those of us with mental health conditions too I wonder?

Just how much do the changing seasons affect us? Continue reading

That Bipolar feeling…

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Some times I think I must have a Bipolar life… I know that I don’t actually have bipolar disorder but the highs and lows in my life are so tremendous at times, I can very quickly go from being on cloud nine, feeling wonderful to feeling the world is against me as another piece of crap hits the fan so to speak and I wonder what is going wrong. When I am in the mediocre stages I sit back and think I’m sure that most people’s lives are pretty much the same… although to be fair the bad things most people have to deal with really do not compare with some of the horrendous stuff that I have been through. Anyone who knows me will tell you that I have undisputedly had way more than my fair share of crap to deal with!! and still it keeps on coming. And, as is probably common with most people’s situations, it always seems to be just as you think you are getting back on your feet that the next load of hardship is thrown at you. Furthermore it then also seems to be immediately followed by yet more stress and upset, hence people sayings ‘It all comes at once’ ‘one step forwards, two steps back’ and so forth.

While anyone will tell you, and I believe it myself, that when these things happen the best thing to do is not let it get you down, pick yourself up – brush yourself off and plough on. In reality the strength it takes to do that can be very hard to find, at times you even wonder if you even want to bother!!!

Don’t get me wrong I have a lot to be thankful for but when the hard times hit you tend to lose sight of the good things. At these times well meaning people will tell you to ‘be positive’ and ‘focus on the good things’ then get frustrated at you when you struggle to do this!! 😦 yet the majority of them will fall into the same trap themselves when things are going badly for them! or if they don’t have that problem then they really haven’t had an experience (or multiple experiences!) that have brought them that low and if that is the case they don’t have a cat in hells chance of understanding what it is like to have reached the bottom and feel there is no way to climb back up.

At the moment I am experiencing a low point and trying hard not to let it knock me off balance too much. I think talking about it helps – but I can’t really talk about the actual situation on here, or even with some of the people I would normally look to for support at times like this, which obviously makes it harder still! Yet I think just by writing this blog I have got a bit off my chest, who knows maybe someone will read it who feels the same way and therefore feels reassured to know they are not alone!!

When it seems the world is against you, don’t feel worse because everyone is telling you to ‘keep your chin up’ ‘think positive’ or whatever. Just remember we are all allowed and entitled to feel some self pity at times – God knows we’ve earnt the right to feel hard done by!!, the only important thing is that we don’t allow it to consume us and once we’ve taken a bit of selfish time to wallow THEN we pick ourselves up brush ourselves up, stick our middle finger to the world and move on…

Enjoy life… we only have one!! 🙂